Hi Queens! I hope you're ready to get comfy on the Real Talk Love Therapy couch again this week!
Real Talk Love Therapy is our new podcast where we hope to create a productive space of discussion to challenge traditionally held views about love, and redefine what it means to be a millennial navigating love, sex, and relationships from a POC perspective. You can read more about it by clicking the button below!
So is anyone familiar with The 5 Love Languages?
Source: The 5 Love Languages
For those of you that are not familiar, it is a relationship assessment quiz that is meant to help you further understand how to give and receive love from those around you.And while the information is typically used in a romantic context, you can also use the information learned to further deepen your other interpersonal, non-romantic relationships as well.
There is a free quiz you can take online to figure out the order of your love languages, or a book you can purchasehere to go more in depth.
So for this week's episode, we decided to invite my good friend Vanessa Parish onto the couch since she read the book as a teen to help with communication issues that she was having with her mother.If you love watching Tasty, then Vanessa might look a little familiar to you because she was the host of Tasting Our Roots, the cooking web series that I directed and produced for Tasty last year.So how The 5 Love Languages work is that there are five key components to love that author, Gary Chapman, outlines in his New York Times best-selling book. The five love languages are:
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Eli found out that he was very big on words of affirmation. He really likes it when his partner can take the time to notice what he's doing, and pay him a compliment about it.
Vanessa then highlighted for us that one of the biggest problems that couples will learn about after doing The 5 Love Languages is that people often give love in the way in which they like to be loved. But in order for The 5 Love Languages to truly enhance your interpersonal relationships, you would, ideally, need to share how you like to be loved with others, and be open to giving love in the way that others like to be loved.
And after this last relationship, Eli didn't feel like he had it in him to love someone who's primary love languages were different from his. In the future, he hopes to find someone that has a complementary love language to him.
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Me and Vanessa, on the other hand, had quality time, acts of service, and words of affirmation rated very high on our results.
What was interesting about taking my love language quiz this time around is that the order of my love languages changed from when I took the quiz 6 months ago.
When I took the quiz back in December, my top rated love language was words of affirmation. It is from this difference that I started to wonder if your love language can evolve based on where you are at in life?
Vanessa, ultimately, let us know that loving someone that has a different love language than you doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship. She is currently in a 4-year relationship with her girlfriend Jade, who has receiving gifts as her primary love language.
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So what are your thoughts on The 5 Love Languages? Have you ever used them before, and how likely do you think they would be to help you enhance your relationship?
Please feel free to share your experience with The 5 Love Languages with us on social media or in the comments below!
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In love, peace, and unapologetic fierceness,
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When life gives you frogboys, you can kiss'em. You can even fuck'em. But don't you dare try and put a frogboy in a king's clothing.
Your queendom is strong enough to be run by one crown, and too valuable to pass off to frogboys because of silly things like societal pressure, nagging families, and the infamous "biological clock."
When Life Gives You Frogboys is my blog that is devoted to building care-free single queens. I hope you enjoy all my blog/vlog posts where I analyze my various (and honestly way too many) encounters with frogboys, and how I (Daysha) used the 4 Queen Commandments to become unapologetically care-free and single.
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