Hi Queens! It's time for another episode of Real Talk Love Therapy! YAAASS!!
Real Talk Love Therapy is our new podcast where we hope to create a productive space of discussion to challenge traditionally held views about love, and redefine what it means to be a millennial navigating love, sex, and relationships from a POC perspective. You can read more about it by clicking the button below!
So if you're someone that dates in this day and age (especially online), then I'm sure you've run into one of these...And I'm many of us know that there's nothing worse than this conundrum...So for this week's episode, we finally decided to dig a little deeper into the anatomy of a fuckboy so as to help those in our lives that might be "unaware" of their fuckboy tendencies.
And I couldn't think of a better guest other than BuzzFeed producer, and the ultimate slayer of Instagram and fuckboys, Ryann Graham (@gudguyryry)!Eli definitely felt triggered right off the jump... but that was to be expected.But overall, Ryann provide us with a lot of insight into the types of fuckboys he's dealt with as he has explored dating in LA, as well as his thoughts on how men can try to do better.Check out our full conversation by clicking on the button below!
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Hey Queens! Welcome back to another episode of Real Talk Love Therapy.
So this episode is on a much deeper topic than what we usually cover, but after being reminded about an unfortunate story that I (Daysha) heard about after going back to her high school to do an assembly with current students, she realize that RTLT would be great platform to discuss the issue.
So back in March, I was invited to do an assembly at my high school, which was also a private day/boarding school. In addition to doing the assembly, I was also invited to many different student groups and classes to interact with students. One of the highlights of my trip was getting to hang out with the women of color alliance that had formed in recent years.
And while they weren't the ones to share the story with me, it was very clear through the conversations that we had that this event that I will share with you had severely impacted their feelings of desirability and self worth in the dating sphere, particularly among men of color.
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So to make a long toxic story very short, a black female student and a white male student at the school decided to hook up with each other. And when the white male student went back to his male of color friends to talk about his experience, they told him, “it sucks that you had to stoop to sleeping with the help.”
Yes. I'm not playing. Young men of color said about their own, “it sucks that you had to stoop to sleeping with the help.”
Eli was pretty shocked...
I, on the other hand, when I first heard it was hurt, but not that surprised.
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So it was from this story that we got into a deeper exploration of the tension between men and women of color and the dating space, and wondering whether or not black/ brown love has become a fantasy in 2018 and beyond ?
Check out our full conversation by clicking on the button below!
So what are your thoughts about this week's episode? Do you think that black and brown love has now become or is turning into a fantasy? Or do you think like Eli, and believe that we are entering into a new phase of what black and brown love looks like?
How important is it to you to marry or date someone within your own race? Is that a personal desire of yours, or do you feel a sense of society/community pressure to do so?
And how do you think we can relieve the tension amongst men and women of color in the dating space?
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That's it for this week's episode! Make sure you're subscribed to Real Talk Love Therapy on SoundCloud or iTunes, and to the Yes Queen YouTube channel to see all the behind-the-scenes moments from our recording sessions.
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We'll catch y'all next week on the Real Talk Love Therapy couch!
In love, peace, and unapologetic fierceness,
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Hi Queens! I hope you're ready to get comfy on the Real Talk Love Therapy couch again this week!
So is anyone familiar with The 5 Love Languages?
For those of you that are not familiar, it is a relationship assessment quiz that is meant to help you further understand how to give and receive love from those around you.
And while the information is typically used in a romantic context, you can also use the information learned to further deepen your other interpersonal, non-romantic relationships as well.
So for this week's episode, we decided to invite my good friend Vanessa Parish onto the couch since she read the book as a teen to help with communication issues that she was having with her mother.
If you love watching Tasty, then Vanessa might look a little familiar to you because she was the host of Tasting Our Roots, the cooking web series that I directed and produced for Tasty last year.
So how The 5 Love Languages work is that there are five key components to love that author, Gary Chapman, outlines in his New York Times best-selling book. The five love languages are:
- Physical Touch
- Quality Time
- Acts Of Service
- Words Of Affirmation
- Receiving Gifts
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Eli found out that he was very big on words of affirmation. He really likes it when his partner can take the time to notice what he's doing, and pay him a compliment about it.
Vanessa then highlighted for us that one of the biggest problems that couples will learn about after doing The 5 Love Languages is that people often give love in the way in which they like to be loved. But in order for The 5 Love Languages to truly enhance your interpersonal relationships, you would, ideally, need to share how you like to be loved with others, and be open to giving love in the way that others like to be loved.
And after this last relationship, Eli didn't feel like he had it in him to love someone who's primary love languages were different from his. In the future, he hopes to find someone that has a complementary love language to him.
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Me and Vanessa, on the other hand, had quality time, acts of service, and words of affirmation rated very high on our results.
What was interesting about taking my love language quiz this time around is that the order of my love languages changed from when I took the quiz 6 months ago.
When I took the quiz back in December, my top rated love language was words of affirmation. It is from this difference that I started to wonder if your love language can evolve based on where you are at in life?
Vanessa, ultimately, let us know that loving someone that has a different love language than you doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship. She is currently in a 4-year relationship with her girlfriend Jade, who has receiving gifts as her primary love language.
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Check out our full conversation by clicking on the button below!
So what are your thoughts on The 5 Love Languages? Have you ever used them before, and how likely do you think they would be to help you enhance your relationship?
Please feel free to share your experience with The 5 Love Languages with us on social media or in the comments below!
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That's it for this week's episode! Make sure you're subscribed to Real Talk Love Therapy on SoundCloud or iTunes, and to the Yes Queen YouTube channel to see all the behind-the-scenes moments from our recording sessions.
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We'll catch y'all next week on the Real Talk Love Therapy couch!
In love, peace, and unapologetic fierceness,
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About The Blog
When life gives you frogboys, you can kiss'em. You can even fuck'em. But don't you dare try and put a frogboy in a king's clothing.
Your queendom is strong enough to be run by one crown, and too valuable to pass off to frogboys because of silly things like societal pressure, nagging families, and the infamous "biological clock."
When Life Gives You Frogboys is my blog that is devoted to building care-free single queens. I hope you enjoy all my blog/vlog posts where I analyze my various (and honestly way too many) encounters with frogboys, and how I (Daysha) used the 4 Queen Commandments to become unapologetically care-free and single.
Click the button below to check out my other blog, Unapologetically Me. It's definitely a choice worth making!
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