Hey Queens! Welcome back to another episode of Real Talk Love Therapy.
Real Talk Love Therapy is our new podcast where we hope to create a productive space of discussion to challenge traditionally held views about love, and redefine what it means to be a millennial navigating love, sex, and relationships from a POC perspective. You can read more about it by clicking the button below!
So this episode is on a much deeper topic than what we usually cover, but after being reminded about an unfortunate story that I (Daysha) heard about after going back to her high school to do an assembly with current students, she realize that RTLT would be great platform to discuss the issue.So back in March, I was invited to do an assembly at my high school, which was also a private day/boarding school. In addition to doing the assembly, I was also invited to many different student groups and classes to interact with students. One of the highlights of my trip was getting to hang out with the women of color alliance that had formed in recent years.
When I attended the school, there were only 4 black kids in my grade, with only 3 of us making it to graduation.
And while they weren't the ones to share the story with me, it was very clear through the conversations that we had that this event that I will share with you had severely impacted their feelings of desirability and self worth in the dating sphere, particularly among men of color.
So to make a long toxic story very short, a black female student and a white male student at the school decided to hook up with each other. And when the white male student went back to his male of color friends to talk about his experience, they told him, “it sucks that you had to stoop to sleeping with the help.”Yes. I'm not playing. Young men of color said about their own, “it sucks that you had to stoop to sleeping with the help.”Eli was pretty shocked...I, on the other hand, when I first heard it was hurt, but not that surprised.
Source: The Huffington Post
Source: Gawker
Source: Diversity Inc
Source: Black America Web
To me, it's a narrative that I've, unfortunately, seen way too many times to be shocked or surprised at this point.
So it was from this story that we got into a deeper exploration of the tension between men and women of color and the dating space, and wondering whether or not black/ brown love has become a fantasy in 2018 and beyond ?Check out our full conversation by clicking on the button below!So what are your thoughts about this week's episode? Do you think that black and brown love has now become or is turning into a fantasy? Or do you think like Eli, and believe that we are entering into a new phase of what black and brown love looks like?How important is it to you to marry or date someone within your own race? Is that a personal desire of yours, or do you feel a sense of society/community pressure to do so?And how do you think we can relieve the tension amongst men and women of color in the dating space?
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When life gives you frogboys, you can kiss'em. You can even fuck'em. But don't you dare try and put a frogboy in a king's clothing.
Your queendom is strong enough to be run by one crown, and too valuable to pass off to frogboys because of silly things like societal pressure, nagging families, and the infamous "biological clock."
When Life Gives You Frogboys is my blog that is devoted to building care-free single queens. I hope you enjoy all my blog/vlog posts where I analyze my various (and honestly way too many) encounters with frogboys, and how I (Daysha) used the 4 Queen Commandments to become unapologetically care-free and single.
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